Based in Tendring, North East Essex, Lads Need Dads CIC is an award winning Not-For-Profit Community Interest Company, set up to prevent potential problems and address existing ones where boys are missing a father-figure in their lives.
We do this by providing:
A male-led group Mentoring Programme
Bush-craft survival training and outdoor activities
On-going support and life-skills training
Leadership and Peer mentoring
54% of boys who completed our pilot programme in 2017, had renewed or increased contact with their fathers. 75% reported improved relationship with their fathers. Through our work we increase boys confidence, self-esteem, resilience and more importantly, emotional intelligence and the ability to manage emotions. With input from our male mentors both boys and mums see the valuable role men play in the lives of boys. This has led to increased contact with fathers. Our work ‘supports’ Dads and values their role. Ultimately, however, our work is focussed primarily on supporting, equipping and empowering boys.
The team of Directors work and/or have a background in Education, Criminal Justice, Health and Social Care and the Statutory and Voluntary Sector.
Referrals to the Programme are made via the school we are working with, so please contact us or your school (if you are a parent or young person) to check if we are running a programme currently. For schools who would like to enlist our services please contact us via our Contact Us page.
The critical years: ages 11-15
Ages 11-15 are when a boy’s choices, both conscious and unconscious, begin to form the foundation of the man he will become. Whether a boy’s father died, left the family home, was abusive or is emotionally unavailable, a teenage boy beginning his journey to manhood with no man to guide him may lose his way. Coupled with experiencing rapid physical, mental/intellectual, and emotional changes, these years are often considered the most difficult period of adolescence.
The ages of 11-15 are significant for boys due to the developmental journey, both their brains and bodies undertake. The sense of risk and adventure grows at this age and the need to be physically and mentally tested and challenged increases. Boys from an early age grow up hearing messages which are often limiting in regards to emotional literacy, such as ‘man up’, ‘get a grip’ etc. Whereas girls are encouraged from an early age to express their emotions freely, boys often aren’t and if they do, fear they may be judged as being ‘weak’. At Lads Need Dads our approach is to help boys learn that there are many ways to be a man, that is okay to own and express vulnerable feelings and there are many ways to resolve conflict other than the aggressive route.